Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

children’s grief

As human beings, we’re not really programmed to think clearly about death – especially not our own. Our brains can’t really deal with it. At almost the same moment our … Continue reading

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tell them

The eighty-five-year-old driver who killed my wife, Desreen, was jailed today for eighteen months for causing her death by dangerous driving. He was also banned from driving for life. I … Continue reading

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three years 

It’s three years today since Desreen was killed. In the beginning people always used to tell me that they couldn’t imagine what I was going through, so I decided to … Continue reading

November 10, 2015 · 23 Comments

compulsory retesting

On 10 November 2012, just after 8pm, I left my friends’ house in northwest London, a happily married 33-year-old father. It was then that I heard my wife, Desreen, speak … Continue reading

November 8, 2015 · 27 Comments

revealing yourself

A good friend of mine is in a lot of pain at the moment after suffering a similar loss to my own. Thinking about how he must feel right now … Continue reading

November 5, 2015 · 9 Comments

five tomorrow

Our beautiful boy turns five tomorrow and I just wanted to wish him a very happy birthday. What a pleasure it is to be his father. Happy birthday, Jackson. I love … Continue reading

October 16, 2015 · 6 Comments

shaded eyes

Imagine for a moment you’ve been told that when you feel down, walking, let’s say, could take all your troubles away. One day you find yourself sitting fairly comfortably in … Continue reading

October 13, 2015 · 15 Comments

crowd force

A girl I know lost a close friend very suddenly over the summer. Her and I bumped into each other over the weekend and I asked her how she was … Continue reading

September 30, 2015 · 2 Comments

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