Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

two years

Today is the second anniversary of Desreen’s death. Seven hundred and thirty days have already passed since she was killed and so I ask myself, What makes this one so … Continue reading

November 10, 2014 · 42 Comments

distant friends

I got a call from a friend on Friday who was phoning to let me know that an ex-colleague of ours had died. The last time I ever heard from … Continue reading

January 13, 2014 · 8 Comments

love letters

In June 1997 a journalist called Mary Schmich published a column in the Chicago Tribune entitled ‘Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young‘. I was at university when the column … Continue reading

December 22, 2013 · 3 Comments

happy christmas

Having lost my wife late last year it probably goes without saying that 2013 has been an unhappy year for me, save the joy our little boy has continuously brought. But … Continue reading

December 12, 2013 · 7 Comments

remembrance sunday

Today is the first anniversary of Desreen’s death and contemplating what to write has troubled me more than anything else I’ve published this year. The temptation to say nothing at … Continue reading

November 10, 2013 · 34 Comments

smiling eyes

My publisher got in touch last week to ask me who they should credit for a head shot I provided some time ago when I was first invited to write … Continue reading

September 11, 2013 · 6 Comments

clearly positive

This is a guest post by Michael Adams Michael’s wife, Helen, died on 1st March 2013 after a brave battle with breast cancer leaving behind a loving, dedicated husband and … Continue reading

August 22, 2013 · 6 Comments

nelson’s journey

This is a very inspiring and moving guest post by Ryan Doubleday, a child bereavement support worker at the charity Nelson’s Journey.  I am sitting at my desk, reading probably the … Continue reading

August 18, 2013 · 10 Comments

magnetic friends

It’s funny to think that there was a time when my wife and I resisted each other enough to tell our friends that we’d met at an inconvenient time in … Continue reading

June 28, 2013 · 4 Comments

breathtaking boy

I always hate the idea of train travel with my son. It’s the not knowing how he’s going to behave that bothers me. I pray he’ll sleep for the whole … Continue reading

June 25, 2013 · 15 Comments

primal scream

In the weeks following my wife’s death I was consumed by fear for our son’s future. How would he react? How would I tell him what had happened? Could he … Continue reading

June 9, 2013 · 5 Comments

inverted commas

Five months ago this week I set up this blog with just one intention. I wanted to help other young widowers find someone who could relate to the hell they … Continue reading

June 5, 2013 · 21 Comments

taking liberties

Dear Desreen, I’m writing to you to ask for forgiveness. I’ve just done something that I can barely excuse. I’ve closed your loyalty card at Liberty. And the luxurious London … Continue reading

June 4, 2013 · 14 Comments

school years

My wife always measured people’s age in school years. I was “the year above” her even in my thirties despite the fact that we were born just eight weeks apart. … Continue reading

May 30, 2013 · 2 Comments

missing myself

A few weeks again someone posted a comment on my blog asking me if any part of me missed or mourned the person I used to be before my wife … Continue reading

April 24, 2013 · 19 Comments

modern loneliness

“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre In normal life I’d probably agree with this statement. There’s something so wonderfully gratifying about escaping the world … Continue reading

April 4, 2013 · 14 Comments

keeping busy

These last few weeks have been pretty busy. Lots of well wishers have warned me not to overstretch myself and friends and family have have shown their concern when they’ve … Continue reading

February 4, 2013 · 10 Comments