Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

happy birthday

How do hold onto something that’s gone? How do make something that’s finished go on? How do you get through the day pretending you’re fine? How can you light candles … Continue reading

October 4, 2014 · 21 Comments

birthday boy

Jackson, my boy, as you’re three today, There are two or three things that I’d like say. There are one or two things you might never have known, And there … Continue reading

October 17, 2013 · 41 Comments

the boss

My last post received lots of really helpful comments about dealing with my son’s grief-related anger. So useful have they been, in fact, that he’s actually been much better today. And perhaps … Continue reading

September 26, 2013 · 15 Comments

love reigns

Lost that bitter winter’s night, Searching balmy summer days for you, Beams of light from a sunset sky Illuminate you in his radiant face. Hope whispers tender words of warmth, … Continue reading

July 27, 2013 · 4 Comments

what if

What if we’d never left home that day, What if we’d travelled a different way. What if we’d gone by taxi not train, What if we’d only had starter not … Continue reading

July 22, 2013 · 26 Comments

difficult company

I’ve tried, so far unsuccessfully, to find out who wrote this poem. Whoever did has done a brilliant job of capturing the ‘please always be there for me except for … Continue reading

May 11, 2013 · 18 Comments

five months

Today marks five months since my wife was killed. It’s also three months since I started writing this blog and by this time next week our son will be two … Continue reading

April 10, 2013 · 11 Comments