A story of grief by a man and a boy

board games

I used to play snakes and ladders with my family when I was a child. Being the youngest of three boys, it was one of the few games that levelled … Continue reading

March 6, 2015 · 11 Comments

inspiring friends

A few days after my wife died I opened up a new email account and asked people to send me their memories of her. At the time the messages I … Continue reading

February 7, 2014 · 7 Comments

subtle moments

I went out for dinner with an old friend last night. Jackson wasn’t too pleased about me leaving the house, allegedly because he was concerned that it was my bedtime … Continue reading

January 17, 2014 · Leave a comment

things break

This is a guest post by Willis Goodmoore Willis Goodmoore, 51, is a widowed father from the United States. His husband Sheldon passed away two years ago in November 2011. They … Continue reading

November 5, 2013 · 4 Comments

engaging memories

I’m sitting in the spot in Regent’s Park where Desreen and I got engaged four years ago this week. It’s a day much like that one. Warm but overcast. Close. … Continue reading

June 18, 2013 · 9 Comments

father’s day

It’s Father’s Day in the UK today. For those of us who are lucky enough to actually have a father, it’s probably a time to send a card, pick up … Continue reading

June 16, 2013 · 10 Comments

butterfly sanctuary

This is a guest post written by Emilie Adams Emilie, 44, is from France and lives in London with her family. She was happily married to Rob until 24th March … Continue reading

May 31, 2013 · 33 Comments

dad’s birthday

This is guest post written by Nicola Murray  Nic Murray is an ex-colleague of mine who I think the world of. Soon after my wife died she wrote to me … Continue reading

May 27, 2013 · 14 Comments

crisis point

Don’t panic, I’m actually having quite a nice day so far. Mostly because ever since I woke up at 5am I’ve been able to hear my wife’s voice in my … Continue reading

May 25, 2013 · 6 Comments

felicitas vitae

“When I was five years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to … Continue reading

March 29, 2013 · 17 Comments

eating out

Without even realising it, I’ve taken to eating out alone. I’ve just been on my second lunch date with myself in a week. The first time I was entirely alone, … Continue reading

March 6, 2013 · 6 Comments

grieving nothing

I’ve suddenly been hit by a kind of bereavement that I’ve never felt before. I’m sort of grieving nothing. I’m kind of grieving something that never existed. I’m feeling a … Continue reading

February 23, 2013 · 10 Comments

dramatic emotions

This an archive post, which I first published this time last year after running the Brighton Half Marathon. I’m participating again tomorrow to raise funds for the child bereavement charity Winston’s Wish. Please … Continue reading

February 18, 2013 · 9 Comments

tough day

It would probably be easy to read my posts and think, ‘Isn’t he doing well?’ so I feel I need to be honest. If I only write when I feel … Continue reading

January 24, 2013 · 29 Comments

new year

This is a Facebook post from my personal account that I wrote just before midnight on New Year’s Eve.  2012. Almost half of our son’s life. Our first (and only) … Continue reading

January 23, 2013 · 14 Comments

being positive

When someone close to you dies, the well-wisher who tells you to ‘stay positive’ should be prepared for a somewhat negative response. What if you weren’t that positive a person … Continue reading

January 15, 2013 · 28 Comments

feeling proud

I am immensely proud of my wife, perhaps more so now than ever before. When I wrote her eulogy, Being Desreen, I asked people to help me and Jackson in … Continue reading

January 10, 2013 · 2 Comments

grieving toddlers

Go and try to find some information on toddler grief that will make you feel better about the death of your infant child’s mummy. And let me know when you … Continue reading

January 8, 2013 · 27 Comments