Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

distant friends

I got a call from a friend on Friday who was phoning to let me know that an ex-colleague of ours had died. The last time I ever heard from … Continue reading

January 13, 2014 · 8 Comments

new words

Many widows and widowers speak of the uncomfortable ‘widowy’ moments they’ve experienced since losing their spouse. Like when they realised a friend had crossed the road to avoid them just … Continue reading

February 15, 2013 · 18 Comments

posthumous gestures

One time that my sub conscience takes over is when I go shopping. Let’s be clear, Desreen loved shopping, she loved spending money and she loved presents. So when I … Continue reading

January 9, 2013 · 7 Comments

condensing grief

This one is short and anything but sweet. One of the most difficult aspects of the grieving process is perhaps the most obvious. It’s trying to come to terms with … Continue reading

January 9, 2013 · 4 Comments

grieving toddlers

Go and try to find some information on toddler grief that will make you feel better about the death of your infant child’s mummy. And let me know when you … Continue reading

January 8, 2013 · 27 Comments

enjoying memories

Tomorrow is the eight year anniversary of our first date. We went to see Desreen’s friend’s boyfriend playing in a band at 93 Feet East. Typical of us to go … Continue reading

January 8, 2013 · 3 Comments