Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

crashing waves

A friend emailed me this morning after reading something he thought I might like to see. ‘Now in my defence,’ he began, ‘I never send you stuff like this, but I stumbled … Continue reading

August 11, 2015 · 18 Comments

blue eyes

This is a guest post by Michael Hand and is the fourth in this blog’s Inspiring Friends series.  The morning after I first met Desreen I came home and told my flat mates I’d met … Continue reading

June 13, 2014 · 9 Comments

poster girl

This is a guest post by Nancy Linihan and is the third in this blog’s Inspiring Friends series.  At my wife’s funeral I gave a eulogy entitled Being Desreen. Throughout the tribute I invited the congregation … Continue reading

March 19, 2014 · 7 Comments

desreen dress

This is a guest post by James New and Jessica Richard, and the second in this blog’s Inspiring Friends series.  My wife loved fashion. It was not only what she spent most of her … Continue reading

March 5, 2014 · 3 Comments

our desreen

This poem is a guest post by Gareth Williams and the first in this blog’s Inspiring Friends series.  When I first met Desreen nine years ago I lived in a shared flat … Continue reading

February 8, 2014 · 7 Comments

inspiring friends

A few days after my wife died I opened up a new email account and asked people to send me their memories of her. At the time the messages I … Continue reading

February 7, 2014 · 7 Comments

best friends

This is a guest post by Anya Hayes Anya first got in touch with me after seeing my son in the park with his grandmother. She recognised him from his … Continue reading

December 8, 2013 · 7 Comments

first anniversary

This is a guest post by Sarah Pointer Tomorrow is the first anniversary of my wife’s death but this time last year life was still perfect. Desreen and I rushed … Continue reading

November 8, 2013 · 17 Comments

things break

This is a guest post by Willis Goodmoore Willis Goodmoore, 51, is a widowed father from the United States. His husband Sheldon passed away two years ago in November 2011. They … Continue reading

November 5, 2013 · 4 Comments

remembering daddy

This is a guest post by Tanya Leary  Tanya is mum to two daughters aged ten months and two years and is the writer behind Mumaleary’s Blog. Here she shares her … Continue reading

November 3, 2013 · 16 Comments

the end

This is Life as a Widower’s very first illustrated guest post by Anders Nilsen I first read about Anders Nilsen, a cartoonist from the States, in an interview with The Guardian, which was published … Continue reading

October 24, 2013 · 15 Comments

feeling guilty

This is a guest post by Jeff Brazier  Jeff and I first met at the This Morning studios in February when we were invited onto the show to discuss child bereavement. Like my … Continue reading

October 15, 2013 · 3 Comments

cat guy

I’ve been toying with an idea for this blog for some time but, until now, it’s made me rather nervous. When I wrote and published my first post back in … Continue reading

September 20, 2013 · 9 Comments

burst bubble

This is a guest post by Kathi Palitz Kathi is 33 years old and mother to three daughters. Her middle daughter, Vega, was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia in January … Continue reading

September 19, 2013 · 8 Comments

clearly positive

This is a guest post by Michael Adams Michael’s wife, Helen, died on 1st March 2013 after a brave battle with breast cancer leaving behind a loving, dedicated husband and … Continue reading

August 22, 2013 · 6 Comments

having faith

This is a guest post by Katherine Cline Katherine and I recently got chatting over email. Sadly we have a lot in common. Her husband Wesley died unexpectedly on 30th March … Continue reading

July 14, 2013 · 5 Comments

educating educators

This is a guest post by Zainab AbdulAziz In a week when the British media covered the issue of educating young children about death, I wanted to add another voice … Continue reading

June 21, 2013 · 5 Comments

annabel’s angels

This is a special Father’s Day guest post by Simon Hancox Simon’s wife Annabel was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in April 2012. She died just after Christmas last year, … Continue reading

June 15, 2013 · 2 Comments

living loss

This is a guest post by Becky Cricther about grief before death Becky is 35-years-old and mummy to Chloe, aged four, who she lives with in Birmingham. A devoted daughter … Continue reading

June 13, 2013 · 15 Comments

losing zoë

This is a guest post by Walter and Dorothy Schwarz This story is exceptionally close to my heart. It’s about the suicide of a girl who I never met, which in … Continue reading

June 7, 2013 · 9 Comments

butterfly sanctuary

This is a guest post written by Emilie Adams Emilie, 44, is from France and lives in London with her family. She was happily married to Rob until 24th March … Continue reading

May 31, 2013 · 33 Comments

dad’s birthday

This is guest post written by Nicola Murray  Nic Murray is an ex-colleague of mine who I think the world of. Soon after my wife died she wrote to me … Continue reading

May 27, 2013 · 14 Comments

playing happy

This is a fourth guest post by my two-year-old son, Jackson Bo Brooks-Dutton. In Jackson’s fourth post, he shares his views on moving from the last home he ever shared … Continue reading

May 23, 2013 · 3 Comments

treasured memories

This is a guest post by Sally Fenton Sally is the founder of Sally-Anne Jewellery. In this post she tells of the grief she felt for the bereavement of her … Continue reading

May 22, 2013 · 2 Comments

heaven’s gates

This is a guest post written by Bill Wright In January 2013 Bill (37) and wife Mandy (36) were excitedly making plans to buy a bigger ‘forever’ house. They had … Continue reading

May 12, 2013 · 49 Comments

tank engines

This is a guest post by writer, journalist and blogger, Emma Beddington …but first an introduction from me I don’t usually interfere with guest posts by weaving in my own … Continue reading

April 12, 2013 · Leave a comment

saying sorry

This is a guest post by John Crace John Crace is a staff feature writer for the Guardian, where he is best known for the literary pastiche ‘Digested Read’. He has … Continue reading

April 9, 2013 · 5 Comments

progress review

This is a third guest post by my two-year-old son, Jackson Bo Brooks-Dutton. In Jackson’s third post, he shares news of his latest nursery progress review – the first since … Continue reading

March 21, 2013 · 6 Comments

daddy’s books

This is a guest post by Elke Barber Elke is a self-employed graphic designer and the author of Is Daddy Coming Back in a Minute?, a fully-illustrated children’s book explaining (sudden) death … Continue reading

March 14, 2013 · 8 Comments

enraged writer

This is a guest post by Virginia Ironside  Virginia Ironside is a British writer, an agony aunt, columnist and author. She currently writes a weekly column for The Independent entitled ‘Virginia … Continue reading

March 8, 2013 · 7 Comments

parental guidance

This is a second guest post by my two-year-old son, Jackson Bo Brooks-Dutton In Jackson’s second post, he shares with us what he really (maybe) means when he throws himself … Continue reading

March 7, 2013 · 10 Comments

my son

This is a very special guest post by my two-year-old son, Jackson Bo Brooks-Dutton Toddler, train enthusiast and part time nursery attendee, Jackson Bo Brooks-Dutton, shares his thoughts on his … Continue reading

February 12, 2013 · 30 Comments

valentine’s day

This is a guest post by Cj M Swaby NLP wellness coach, writer and speaker, 33-year-old Cj M Swaby lost his brother; the singer, musician, husband, son and uncle, Lynden … Continue reading

February 8, 2013 · 15 Comments