Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

four years

Four years apart but always together through memories and love.    

November 10, 2016 · 6 Comments

simplifying things

There’s a brilliant film on BBC iPlayer by Adam Curtis called Bitter Lake. Aside from being about decades of war in Afghanistan it has nothing to do with grief. An … Continue reading

November 5, 2016 · 10 Comments

tell them

The eighty-five-year-old driver who killed my wife, Desreen, was jailed today for eighteen months for causing her death by dangerous driving. He was also banned from driving for life. I … Continue reading

December 22, 2014 · 423 Comments

dangerous driving

My wife was killed twenty-five months ago today, and since that day, despite the fact that I have unashamedly spoken out about my grief, I have remained respectfully tight-lipped about what I believed to … Continue reading

December 10, 2014 · 36 Comments

happy birthday

How do hold onto something that’s gone? How do make something that’s finished go on? How do you get through the day pretending you’re fine? How can you light candles … Continue reading

October 4, 2014 · 21 Comments

something yellow

I keep being asked how I feel about Father’s Day and what I have planned. The honest truth is that, because I’m lucky enough to already spend so much time … Continue reading

June 14, 2014 · 4 Comments

blue eyes

This is a guest post by Michael Hand and is the fourth in this blog’s Inspiring Friends series.  The morning after I first met Desreen I came home and told my flat mates I’d met … Continue reading

June 13, 2014 · 9 Comments