LIFE AS A WIDOWER

A story of grief by a man and a boy

happy birthday

How do hold onto something that’s gone? How do make something that’s finished go on? How do you get through the day pretending you’re fine? How can you light candles … Continue reading

October 4, 2014 · 21 Comments

birthday boy

Jackson, my boy, as you’re three today, There are two or three things that I’d like say. There are one or two things you might never have known, And there … Continue reading

October 17, 2013 · 42 Comments

in training

When my wife first died late last year, one thing that really struck me was just how many presents our son received. Everyone was so generous but I couldn’t help … Continue reading

September 27, 2013 · 10 Comments

but nothing

‘Are you going to be okay with all this?’ These days I get asked this question every time I attend any social occasion that involves more than four people. I … Continue reading

September 1, 2013 · 19 Comments

birthday beats

Today’s my 34th birthday. This means I’m now what I said I feared most when I gave my wife’s eulogy – older than she ever got chance to be – … Continue reading

August 12, 2013 · 31 Comments

time out

This whole blogging business is still pretty new to me. Having set up my site without giving it too much thought, I never really got chance to explore any guidelines … Continue reading

July 29, 2013 · 22 Comments

primal scream

In the weeks following my wife’s death I was consumed by fear for our son’s future. How would he react? How would I tell him what had happened? Could he … Continue reading

June 9, 2013 · 5 Comments

school years

My wife always measured people’s age in school years. I was “the year above” her even in my thirties despite the fact that we were born just eight weeks apart. … Continue reading

May 30, 2013 · 2 Comments

dad’s birthday

This is guest post written by Nicola Murray  Nic Murray is an ex-colleague of mine who I think the world of. Soon after my wife died she wrote to me … Continue reading

May 27, 2013 · 14 Comments

strange intuition

Today is my mother-in-law’s 60th birthday. A day she has been planning since she turned 50. We had big plans. A party with all her friends and family followed by … Continue reading

January 30, 2013 · 9 Comments

woman trouble

It’s hard to imagine a two-year-old boy already experiencing problems with the opposite sex, but we are having some serious woman trouble. My son, who has always been fiercely loyal … Continue reading

January 29, 2013 · 12 Comments