Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

love legacy

Warning! Psychologists say that you’re very likely to want to ignore the subject matter of this blog post. Take it from me, though: it may well have the power to … Continue reading

June 1, 2016 · 6 Comments

rising again

I’ve been going to counselling on and off for about two and a half years now. It’s not for everyone but I really value it. My experience of it now … Continue reading

April 30, 2016 · 24 Comments

mourning papers

‘You turn on the TV and every other story is tellin’ you somebody died.’ – Prince, Sign O’ The Times It’s been difficult to avoid the subject of death this … Continue reading

April 22, 2016 · 6 Comments

children’s grief

As human beings, we’re not really programmed to think clearly about death – especially not our own. Our brains can’t really deal with it. At almost the same moment our … Continue reading

November 19, 2015 · 3 Comments

three years 

It’s three years today since Desreen was killed. In the beginning people always used to tell me that they couldn’t imagine what I was going through, so I decided to … Continue reading

November 10, 2015 · 24 Comments

compulsory retesting

On 10 November 2012, just after 8pm, I left my friends’ house in northwest London, a happily married 33-year-old father. It was then that I heard my wife, Desreen, speak … Continue reading

November 8, 2015 · 31 Comments

revealing yourself

A good friend of mine is in a lot of pain at the moment after suffering a similar loss to my own. Thinking about how he must feel right now … Continue reading

November 5, 2015 · 9 Comments