Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

Media enquiries

Please contact me via Twitter for all media enquiries (the link provided will take you straight there). Alternatively you can leave a comment on any of the blog posts, which I will see immediately but will remain private until approved. Thanks.

21 comments on “Media enquiries

  1. Sophie Lewis
    June 4, 2014

    You mentioned a counselling charity on the Vanessa Feltz show in May 2014- but I did not catch the name. Please can you advise. I have a friend who is male and struggling to come to terms with the death of his mum and I think this group might be able to help or point me to someone who can. Many thanks in advance

    • Life as a Widower
      June 4, 2014

      Hi Sophie. Assuming that he’s an adult then it would be Cruse Bereavement Care, which offers bereavement counselling. The other option is to visit a GP and ask about what counselling services they can refer him to. All the best, Ben

      • Sophie Lewis
        July 29, 2014

        Thank you

  2. Tim Cook
    July 10, 2014

    Hi Ben, a week ago my wife passed away minutes after giving birth to our baby daughter, i also have a 3 year old son who is asking for his mummy. My wife was 35 and I am 34. I am not really sure what to ask you or say yet to be honest but wanted to connect with you and let you know that your blog, story and courage have helped me & been a positive guide. All the best, Tim Cook

  3. Nadine Weinands
    June 24, 2015

    Dear Mr. Brooks-Dutton,

    i am a lector, working for a german magazine and I would like to write an article about your recently in Germany published book. Unfortunately I do not have any photos, except for the book cover. Would it be possible to use your private photos, you already released in your blog?
    Thanks in advance and sorry for my rusted English 😉

    Kind regards
    Nadine Weinands

    • Life as a Widower
      June 24, 2015

      Of course. If you send me your email address I can get them to you tonight. Thanks

      • Richard
        February 2, 2017

        I’m in a similar situation to yours and wanted to talk to you about all sorts of things but can’t find your email address, can you send it to me please.

  4. David
    November 10, 2015

    Dear Ben,

    I couldn’t find another means to email you so I’m using this.

    I think of you and your family every year in the build-up to this week.

    I live on Dynham Road and well remember the tragic event you were faced with. It has further meaning to me that on the 10th November 1988 I lost my beloved brother Paul. He was 12 and I was 10, and though I’m now an adult in my thirties it’s of course accurate to say none of us ever truly recovers from these losses.

    I pass by the location of the accident every morning and every evening heading home, when it’s always in my mind and I never fail to say a quick prayer for you all. I know that this is the case for many of the neighbours here, who also think of you, your son, and your entire family on a daily basis; you are all very much still in our thoughts here. For me, it’s always the same thought that passes through my mind on that brief turn into my road; I say to myself “I wonder how Ben and his son are doing now…”

    I’m so glad to read that you’ve continued on your journey of recovery and healing; it takes immense strength and hope to not surrender to despair. Personally, I’ve found that acceptance is the only route out of it. Acceptance and time. I firmly believe that God is always with us in our suffering and that the love we had isn’t limited by death. My father lost my mother, my brother, and then his own mother in less than 8 years- Yet I can still say that he has survived, found some happiness, and come to terms with much of what has happened to him…there is always hope, even in the bleakest of moments.

    So on this shared anniversary, as with every other, I wanted you to know I’m thinking of you all and saying a prayer for your continued strengthening. You clearly have the courage and determination and I’m certain life will continue to reward your efforts.

    Warmest regards always,


  5. Anita Davies
    December 17, 2015

    Hi Ben

    My name is Anita and I’m contacting you from Take a Break magazine. We have a readers poll running “Should drivers over 70 be retested?”. Is it possible we could reproduce the wedding photo of you and Desreen from the top of your twitter page?

    With thanks and best wishes to you.


    Anita Davies
    Take a Break magazine

  6. Jenny Corrie
    April 11, 2016

    Dear Benjamin,

    I wanted to get in touch with you after having read your incredible article published in the Huffington Post, ‘I’m a single father raising my son to be a feminist’.

    I work for a social enterprise called Super Being Labs,, and we carry out a lot of social impact work with a particular focus on young people. We are currently putting together a book called Mankind which explores the concept of masculinity and what it means to be a man.

    The book is a collection of stories written by everyday, kind men. Their stories cover several issues such as sexuality, violence, mental health, fatherhood, bullying etc. They show that there is not one definition of masculinity; it comes in many forms and can mean something different to each person.

    The aim is for the book to inspire teenage boys who may not necessarily have positive role models in their lives. We hope that these young men can learn something from the stories and I hope it will provoke them to openly discuss some of the issues covered in the book.

    We will use the profits from book sales towards giving free books away to schools in disadvantaged areas of London and to put back into further social impact work and hopefully allow the project to grow further.

    I wonder whether you might be willing for us to publish the article you wrote for the Huffington Post? Or, perhaps you would like to write a something new or updated?

    I really hope you are interested in being involved. Please let me know if you have any questions. I look forward to hearing from you.

    Kind regards,


    Jenny Corrie
    Producer, Super Being Labs

    • Life as a Widower
      May 23, 2016

      I’m so sorry I missed this. I’m really happy for you to use whatever you want from the blog.


  7. Hi Ben

    After bumping into you at the gym just now and you mentioning the bereavement programme you’re working on, something twigged. I put 2+2 together and realised that you are the same person i was in PepsiCo meetings with AND the person whose brilliant blog i have read!

    I lost my Mum 14 years ago very suddenly aged 20 and tried to help my Dad carry on as a widower. Then 3 years ago i was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as i’d never really dealt with my own grief and just buried it. My PTSD came out as severe anxiety and depression and i spent a couple of years working through it with a lot of therapy and support. Now as i’m preparing to become a Mum (which is so positive and I feel very thankful for it after a difficult few years), i’m conscious that i’ll experience more waves of grief for my Mum who won’t be there to share this. Anyway that is a ramble but i just wanted to say your blog and story was a source of inspiration in some of my darker days. And its good to put a face i know to the words i’ve read.

    Hope to bump into you again soon.

  8. Sharon Cornford
    February 3, 2017

    Hi Ben
    I am organising the annual conference of the Association of Bereavement Service Coordinators on 11th and 12th July 2017 in Leeds. Our topic this year is “Death and Bereavement in a Digital Age” and we wondered whether you would be interested in speaking to us about your use of your blog to support your bereavement and grief.
    If so, please contact me directly for further details.
    Sharon Cornford
    ABSCo Vice Chair

    • Life as a Widower
      February 17, 2017

      I can’t find an email address for you but if you send me one I’ll get back in touch. Thanks

  9. Craig Scorer
    February 22, 2017

    Hi Ben, Firstly, thank you for your book. The strange thing is that I first started reading it whilst my wife was suffering from cancer. I think that I must have felt that the inevitable was going to happen and maybe it was a way of “preparing’ me for that. Even though she had been ill for around 7 years since her initial diagnosis she was not expected to die but passed away on 10th February 2015,aged 46, leaving behind two daughters who at the time were aged 11 & 9. Having been in a similar situation yourself you know how difficult the past 2 years has been. I had some very good counselling from CRUSE and, in a naive way thought that I would be “better” and I would be free to concentrate on raising my 2 daughters. How wrong could I have been ??
    Never did I think that the loneliness would take such a hold on me in the way it has. That and the “widower” label. A man with 2 daughters in tow…must be divorced… again. I remember being told early on in my bereavement ..”Craig, the one thing you’ll really miss will be having no one to talk about nothing with”.Harsh but so true.
    I’ve just re-read what I have written. Why am I writing to you ?? Well, to be honest I don’t really know. I think that it’s probably because you’re a bloke in the same situation as me and, that in itself is quite rare and I think largely misunderstood. Women, I think are so much better able to cope than us blokes. I’m not saying it’s any easier but they deal with things so much better I find.
    Ben, I’ve rambled enough when all I actually wanted to do was drop by and say “hi fellow widower”…”crap isn’t it ?”

    Best Regards to you and Jackson.


  10. Anthony Gubbay
    June 8, 2017

    Hi Ben,
    I am a chronic pain doctor at a London hospital and have a patient struggling to cope with his pain. He has been widowed and I believe this is having an effect on his pain. Appropriate management has begun but his isolation needs attention and I was hoping that he could attend your group meetings.
    Please can I ask you to contact me on the attached so we can discuss.

    • Life as a Widower
      June 9, 2017

      Hi Anthony,
      I don’t run group meetings as such. I simply set up a private Facebook group for other widowed men. Your patient would be welcome to join of course. He would need to contact me though so I can add him.

  11. Natalie Hoare
    June 19, 2017

    Hi Ben, I’m from Jigsaw (South East) which was also involved with the recent documentary about Rio Ferdinand. One of our Grief Support Workers has enquired if it would be possible for us to signpost bereaved dads to your private Facebook group? If so, can you send us the best way for them to do that – an email – that we can pass on to them directly? Many thanks, Natalie

    • Natalie Hoare
      July 17, 2017

      hi just checking this has reached you….. :0)

    • Life as a Widower
      August 18, 2017

      Sorry Natalie, I missed this. If they just leave me a note on the blog I’ll pick it up and make contact. Thanks, Ben

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