Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

single boredomhood

It occurred to me the other day that I don’t really see myself as a ‘widower’ anymore. Nothing about losing my wife feels any different, but it’s only really when I have … Continue reading

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looking forward

I’m never quite sure why I choose not to write so much anymore. Part of it is inevitable: I no longer find myself wading through the thick, viscous grief that … Continue reading

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tell them

The eighty-five-year-old driver who killed my wife, Desreen, was jailed today for eighteen months for causing her death by dangerous driving. He was also banned from driving for life. I … Continue reading

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young minds

It’s funny how children tend to want to grow up quickly and be older than they actually are. Sometimes I think it’s as though their self worth is defined by the number of … Continue reading

November 17, 2016 · 12 Comments

four years

Four years apart but always together through memories and love.    

November 10, 2016 · 6 Comments

simplifying things

There’s a brilliant film on BBC iPlayer by Adam Curtis called Bitter Lake. Aside from being about decades of war in Afghanistan it has nothing to do with grief. An … Continue reading

November 5, 2016 · 10 Comments

anniversary gift

Earlier this week I overhead my colleagues talking about the London riots. ‘Can you believe it’s been five years this week?’ one asked. No, I thought, I really can’t. My … Continue reading

August 5, 2016 · 14 Comments

dream girl 

She walked ahead along an unfamiliar bridge over the Thames. A building at its mouth bellowed thick black and grey smoke as a fire blazed inside. The sun shone in … Continue reading

July 31, 2016 · Leave a comment