Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

wishing peace

People often write to me to explaining that they have also lost a loved one; I mostly hear from other widows and widowers who are reaching out to say that … Continue reading

December 24, 2013 · 9 Comments

the end

This is Life as a Widower’s very first illustrated guest post by Anders Nilsen I first read about Anders Nilsen, a cartoonist from the States, in an interview with The Guardian, which was published … Continue reading

October 24, 2013 · 14 Comments

in training

When my wife first died late last year, one thing that really struck me was just how many presents our son received. Everyone was so generous but I couldn’t help … Continue reading

September 27, 2013 · 10 Comments

grief expectations

In the Charles Dickens novel Great Expectations the lead character, Pip, is introduced as a downtrodden orphan living with his abusive sister and her somewhat kinder husband. One day, when visiting … Continue reading

September 8, 2013 · 7 Comments

time travel

I remember the pain of last November well. And I remember lying awake all night in bed searching my mind for answers and the internet for solutions to that pain. … Continue reading

July 26, 2013 · 16 Comments

losing zoë

This is a guest post by Walter and Dorothy Schwarz This story is exceptionally close to my heart. It’s about the suicide of a girl who I never met, which in … Continue reading

June 7, 2013 · 8 Comments

our song

A couple of weeks ago I mentioned that I’d written a song with my musician friend Paul Hand. Well it’s out today and proceeds from its downloads will go to … Continue reading

April 29, 2013 · 4 Comments

grief cycle

On 22nd December 2012, my son drew this picture on an envelope with a ballpoint pen. “What’s that, darling?” I asked. “It Mummy”, he replied. ‘Then it’s a keeper’, I … Continue reading

March 9, 2013 · 9 Comments

time heals

I was asked an interesting question about the blog in a tweet yesterday. ‘Is there someone you want to follow you who doesn’t already? If so, who?’ At first I … Continue reading

February 27, 2013 · 32 Comments

tough day

It would probably be easy to read my posts and think, ‘Isn’t he doing well?’ so I feel I need to be honest. If I only write when I feel … Continue reading

January 24, 2013 · 29 Comments

want mummy

For such a small chap, it seems strange to me that my son has become the elephant in the room. People seem comfortable checking how I am, but it’s often … Continue reading

January 14, 2013 · 32 Comments

condensing grief

This one is short and anything but sweet. One of the most difficult aspects of the grieving process is perhaps the most obvious. It’s trying to come to terms with … Continue reading

January 9, 2013 · 4 Comments
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