Life as a Widower

A young widowed father opening up about living with loss

goodbye grandma

My maternal grandma died this afternoon. She was the last of my grandparents to go.

She was an incredible woman, an incredible grandmother and, most of all, an incredible friend. I worshipped her from the moment I was born and Desreen adored her from the moment they met.

I’ll have so much more to say soon no doubt, but today I don’t even know how I feel. In a family immediately dominated by men, I’ve lost two of the three most significant women in my life in less than nine months.

So all I really wanted to say for now is that if there is a heaven, I know that Dessie will be ordering herself and my grandma gin and tonics in the VIP lounge.

And if it’s really that great up there I’m positive that my granddad will be the bartender.

I love you, Grandma. Jackson and I will talk about you every day.

xx

My grandma and me partying with gin and tonics

My grandma and me partying with gin and tonics

10 comments on “goodbye grandma

  1. Carrie Dunne
    July 8, 2013

    Oh Ben, I’m so so sorry to hear about your Grandma. How unfair life is but it’s wonderful how you will keep her memory alive with Jackson. If there is a heaven, I just hope my husband is entertaining them in the VIP lounge with his card tricks and magic. He was pretty good!
    My thoughts are with you and your family. Carrie x

  2. matt25v35
    July 8, 2013

    There is a Heaven o’right! Other then finding beautiful comfort in the love letter called Bible , you should read Heaven is for real! Amazing book!

  3. matt25v35
    July 8, 2013

    There is a heaven o’right!
    Other then finding comfort in a beautiful love letter called Bible you should read book called Heaven is for real! Amazing book!

  4. Judy
    July 8, 2013

    So sorry for your loss. My dad always said he didn’t believe in heaven, but that he hoped he was proved wrong so he could be with my mom again- she died at 55- the love of his live until he died at 86.

  5. SHB
    July 8, 2013

    there are no words so just sending you a (hug) x

  6. Sharron
    July 9, 2013

    Rest in peace Grandma xxx

  7. Laura S
    July 9, 2013

    Sorry for your loss

  8. I am sorry to hear your news. It’s been an incredibly tough year for you already. Sending hugs to you all

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